In my head, In my head…

I don’t know if it’s just me but ever since I had kids and started spending much more time with kids than other adults, I find myself in my head a lot.  I didn’t even realize that this was not normal until I started hearing podcasters and authors discussing it like it was a bad thing. I have all sorts of thoughts, lists, dialogues, and stories that I tell myself going on in my head constantly.  I have things I worry about, am excited about, things I hope to do, and things I don’t want to do all swirling in my mind. And if I am bothered by something I tell myself stories (as people do) that becomes an internal dialogue to try to rationalize things or make sense of situations that are dramatic, chaotic, or stressful.

I am not sure if being “in your head” is the worst thing.  I think it’s important for us, as human beings, to work out our feelings, our emotions, and our thoughts on our own and let things go through the process before we discuss with other people or confront certain situations.  Of course for me writing is also an outlet, hence this blog, and helps me to brain dump and get some things off my head and chest.

I realize that some people like to talk things out with their friends and family to help work out what they have going on in their heads.  I do this too sometimes. But for me, often before the words come out of my mouth and I am verbalizing my thoughts to someone close to me, I have already sorted out a lot of what I think is going on, how I feel, and what I think the best game plan is.  Very type A. So it’s not that I don’t want to know what another person thinks of my situation, I just prefer to go through the steps by myself first, and try to get to the bottom of things myself before going to another person. There’s no right or wrong way, it’s all how we approach life and what works for each individual.  I actually really enjoy the process of talking through internal thoughts and feelings with another person and helping that person sort through what’s happening inside of themselves and brainstorming ideas and solutions. And I find it refreshing and an honor that someone would trust me with their vulnerabilities, and don’t take that for granted.